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Writer's pictureJason Chan

Unveiling the Grandeur of Guo Da Li (过大礼): A Traditional Chinese Wedding Ritual

Updated: Aug 27


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A Glimpse Into Time-Honored Traditions (传统的一瞥)

As a Feng Shui master, I have advised countless couples on the path to harmonious wedded bliss. One tradition that stands out in Chinese weddings is Guo Da Li (过大礼), a ceremony symbolising the groom's sincerity towards the bride and her family.



The Significance of Guo Da Li (过大礼的意义)

Guo Da Li plays a leading role in the grand theatrical performance of a traditional Chinese wedding. The groom's family chooses an auspicious day, ideally 14-60 days before the wedding, to present grand gifts to the bride's family, signifying the coming together of two lives.






The Ritual Unfolded (仪式展开)

The spectacle of Guo Da Li is a sight to behold. The representative or matchmaker reveals the contents as the groom's family delivers the gifts. These gifts can include traditional items such as a roast pig, a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, and a set of gold jewellery. Each item is presented with an auspicious blessing, symbol unity and prosperity. I've observed this unique tradition being passed down from generation to generation; each item is imbued with deep cultural significance.



A Matter of Etiquette (礼节之事)

Intriguingly, the bride and groom should avoid being present during the Guo Da Li ceremony. This aspect of 'not seeing' (避席) is a symbolic gesture that encapsulates the charm and mystery inherent in Chinese wedding customs. It signifies the couple's respect for the tradition and their anticipation for the future.



The Return of Gifts (回礼)

After Guo Da Li, the bride's family reciprocates by returning some gifts to the groom's side. This act of reciprocity is a beautiful reflection of the mutual respect and blessings shared between the two families.



Simplifying Traditions (简化传统)

As a Feng Shui master, I've seen modern couples looking for a simplified approach to Guo Da Li. An all-inclusive Guo Da Li set can be a practical solution, ensuring the essence of the tradition is preserved while adapting to contemporary lifestyles.



Marrying Tradition with Modernity (结合传统与现代)

Regardless of how the ritual evolves, the spirit of Guo Da Li — the union of two souls and two families — remains timeless. As we navigate the modern world, it's important to cherish these traditional practices that connect us to our rich cultural heritage.


Interested in learning more about Chinese wedding traditions or seeking advice on Feng Shui for your wedding? Contact me, your trusted Feng Shui master, for a consultation. Let's embark on this beautiful journey together!





Remember, all cash gifts, wedding cakes, and presents should come in pairs (好事成双) - symbolising the unity of two becoming one, an encouraging blessing for the new couple.

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